Yesterday we began talking about the legal swamp—the tendency of people, and even professing Christians, to march headlong into the mire of courtroom battles, often without any attempt at personal reconciliation.
And the longer we’re in the swamp, the more our attitude starts to stink. This is especially true when we choose to press the issue from a strictly legal standpoint. Even if we win the case, we don’t walk away humble and grateful. We walk away proud—and even bitter. Why? Because we “got what we had coming to us . . . we got what we deserved.”
It occurred to me (thanks to an insightful message I once heard from my friend Ray Stedman) that when people receive what they deserve, they are robbed of the joy of gratitude. Instead of being humbly thankful, they are either resentful that they didn’t get more (or they didn’t get it sooner) or they are arrogant because they got their way. And have you noticed? Joy is absent. From start to finish the process is a grim, bitter, analytical battle of wills. And even when it ends—the offense is still there. Unsmiling, un-touching, and unyielding, each side walks away. Momentary mirth may occur as the “spoils of victory” are divided, but while the head swells, the heart hardens.
Do you know what process God prefers? Have you considered lately what He says about the right way to resolve our disputes? Do you want to know His plan for healing offenses? Allow me:
Does any one of you, when he has a case against his neighbor, dare to go to law before the unrighteous and not before the saints? . . . So if you have law courts dealing with matters of this life, do you appoint them as judges who are of no account in the church? I say this to your shame. Is it so, that there is not among you one wise man who will be able to decide between his brethren, but brother goes to law with brother, and that before unbelievers? Actually, then, it is already a defeat for you, that you have lawsuits with one another. Why not rather be wronged? Why not rather be defrauded? On the contrary, you yourselves wrong and defraud. You do this even to your brethren. (1 Corinthians 6:1, 4–8)
Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you. (Ephesians 4:31-32)
But, you see, that’s what brings about the joy of gratitude . . . receiving what we don’t deserve. When that happens, humility replaces pride. A thankful spirit cancels out arrogance. Mercy flies in the face of resentment. Rights are much less important in light of a healed relationship. Why? Simply because somebody received what wasn’t deserved.
It’s called grace.
Excerpt taken from Come before Winter and Share My Hope by Charles R. Swindoll. Copyright © 1985, 1988, 1994 by Charles R. Swindoll, Inc. All rights reserved worldwide.
